LOSS04/07/17

The process of losing something or someone is associated with hurt and grief. It is missing that something or someone. It is the feeling of wanting that thing or someone back. It relates to a time one is abandoned, alone and sad.

From a young age we lose our childhood and innocence of joy and freedom to growing up. For one reason or another, we lose our jobs and all there is associated with like travelling to work, the people we meet, workmates and so on.

And then we lose our friends; we lose our families and our homes. In fact the older we get the more losses we face.

Personal losses may be perceived as termination of joy and happiness or incomplete achievements. It is usually personalised as failures. But how have we managed to move on in the face of loss tells different stories of individuals and their cultures.

One philosophy perceives the notion of self in the presence of time. That is; self is the here and now of existence and nothing else. But what makes one aware of his/her self in the here and now are his/her feelings and senses. It is pure material in the subjective sense, nothing else.

Unfortunately, feelings and senses are restricted in the confinement of the material that fails to stabilise objective existence.

Self within the confines of materialism and nothing else means we are only made aware of ourselves when we want something or about to lose something. It is when we are deprived of or indulging in materialism; it is all about self.

However, another philosophy suggests a process from the self to the soul. Having an objective purpose accounts for existence is in line with holistic existence.

Having an objective, instead of been aware of oneself in the context of narrow materialism, the conscious awareness in the moment of time elevates feelings and senses to the mind. And the output produces quantification of feelings and senses to objective existence. That is where the conscious awareness is dynamic.

One saying goes, 'the deeper the love the greater the loss' and hence the hurt. But it illustrates the nature of Material Love. We seem to have valued so much of objects of desires like they're parts of ourselves. We have extended ourselves to the things we love and have become part of us.

When we lose that part of ourselves, we experience hurt. It certainly requires us to re-examine what love is and prioritise what we place our love.

Now, Material Love is the attachment of feelings and senses to an object. These feelings and senses dwell in the subjective realm.

In the elevation process, things that cannot be filtered remain in the subjective realm for they cannot stabilise our existence. But in the subjective, we place so much material love on those things just as we experience so much hurt and grief in their loss.

If love can be good for us and our loved ones, then why are we suffering in loss? It must be when love is corrupt. It is because pure feelings and senses cannot stabilise reality on their own.

The logic of the material or AI abstract cannot directly conclude pure feelings and senses to social stability. It merely accumulates side effects of corrupt love; the love that we place on things.

In the same sense, we also place the same corrupt love on people. Those we place corrupt love upon become parts of our possession only to satisfy our desires. It is pure feelings and senses that are corrupt and the deeper the love the greater the loss and hurt.

To tie up the loose ends, pure feelings and senses give rise to Material Love. Material Love attaches so much feelings and senses to objects of desire. It is when we lose these objects of desire that we lose parts of ourselves. And like losing a part of ourselves results with pain, hurt and grief.

The Love that we share with loved ones, friends and relatives is not Material Love; it is love in the context of objective social relationships. There is a neutral communal purpose the relationship is based upon. A breakdown in this relationship is not so much a personal loss but a family and community grief.

You see, Material Love is purely sensual and selfish, where normal Love is an objective bind between social beings that gives rise to the stability of their families and communities.

It makes sense therefore that that deeper the Material Love the greater the hurt is because it is personally endured by one individual. And at the same time, the deeper the objective love is the less pain is endured by the individual because it is shared by his/her family or community.

If the above is true, then those suffering the most are more likely to be individuals isolated from their family whanau and communities.

However, the value lesson for us is to check that the relationships we get into is not a one sided affair but based on Objective Love where both parties share equally the joy and responsibility.

In the high time of technology, sensual trends reflect the lack of social balance in individuals' lives. Amidst extravagant pleasures in subjective desires, losses exemplify something that is missing that the material can never replace.

It is looking beyond the material to embrace the social objective that renders subjectivism reality.

The irony of moving upward is true of the current trend of overcrowding space with rockets and satellites, but the metaphor is moving from subjective materialism of feelings and senses to stable objective reality. While the material is motivated by pure logic or AI, it is stabilised by Objective Logic.

That means rockets and satellites have to serve a useful purpose for our humanity or we are totally thinned to the bone.