Suicide Prevent Draft - Feedback17/05/2017

I have browsed through the 'suicide-prevent-draft' and I must comment on its thorough and very well written strategy.

It defines terminology for easy reference and logical structure of Goals, Targets, Measure, Practical Application and Feedback.

I am particularly impressed with the way the vision exemplifies the people; the experience of the here and now but impacts an objective of the future.

I can only extend on what has already suggested; 1. The family, 2. Shaming and 3. The future.

  1. There is no denying the fact that Asians are less likely to commit suicide. Maori and Pacific on the other hand remain high on the list. If this should highlight anything, it points to the family unit.

    I know a young Asian man who is always the last to arrive at work. He wakes up early in the morning to transport his father while his wife takes care of the children. Asian grandparents and their grandchildren make up members of their household therefore a larger support group and a feeling of belonging for the children. It also indicates how Maori and Pacific families are likely to have moved away from that family unit to individuals' independence.

    The family and community therefore require reinforcement of a social role in remaining supportive of children and young people. A place children and young people enthusiastically want to come home to and feel safe after school, after sports, or after work. And not a place they dread. A place they feel comfortable and learn about themselves in terms of family values, gender or sexuality, ethnicity, belief and ambitions.
  2. Shaming has implied a number of aspects including 'mockery', 'ridicules' and 'cyber bullying'. Some of the jokes can be nasty and have that ill intend to harm.

    I know in my time, jokes were the major cause of fights. Makes you wonder how some people are making a living by making jokes while others cop the thick end.
    While it seems to be the pastime of the middle class, it is tied in with peer pressure. Either way if you are the object of a joke and don't stand up for yourself, you might wear a nasty label for life.
  3. Forward looking - hope. It is dealing with the past in order to move forward. A criminal record or past mistakes are constant reminders that often stumbles the individual when attempting to move forward.

    These are often unintentional but nonetheless alive in the individual's memory when triggered.

    Most jobs won't employ a Maori or Pacific person with a criminal record no matter how positive changes have achieved.

    The politics of the system in place is based on adversarial social relations. Public debates are often personalised and what's lacking in intelligence is sometimes made up of filth. If one is a target, he/she expects bucket loads of dirt.

The issue of sexuality is critical when individuals are somewhat confused with themselves.

Going outside from the safety of the home leaves one vulnerable to the elements. At the same time, it is not healthy for one to stay protected inside. One has to learn how to survive and move on with his/her live.

That is why individuals have to know who they are, how they function and what they want. They have to be strong, confident and go about themselves without harming others or themselves.

It is a long process subject to trials and error but valuable lessons necessary for survival. That is why a strong family is a safe base for growing up.

I suggest reading principles of ID including the 'self' and 'mode' of behaviour for necessary changes. I did have these articles in the archive but my website has been missing a couple of times over time and I had to start all over again.

Anyway, there is one principle that makes a big difference. You have to learn to forgive. You might laugh at this but believe me it has been proven to work. I know it's easier said than done especially when you are angry. When you are in the height of angry feelings, the last thing you would want to do is to forgive someone.

That's why it's best to learn about Forgiveness when you are a little less angry. Forgiveness is learning about yourself. When you forgive someone, you are in fact forgiving yourself. How? Well the fact is if you don't forgive, the issue of your concern remains raw in your heart. It brews hatred and bad thoughts that tempt you to act harmfully in revenge or to pay back but mostly to restore your (false) pride.

Some people put ideas in your head to make you react the way they want you to. You see, they will drive you crazy without saying or doing anything directly. And soon enough you are suspected to be ill.

When you have learned about forgiveness, compassion and love come naturally. You just know it. And soon you will begin to see an objective purpose in your life. It is the beginning of positive thinking and confidence in yourself.

You will feel good about yourself when you have done good just as feeling confused when do bad. It impacts on your emotions and your positive aura is picked up by those around you.

When someone blames you for whatever and you know you are not guilty, learn to let go even if you get punished for it. You will learn a great deal about yourself when you help someone else. You can also help someone else by letting them help you.

Keep on practising the above principles until it becomes natural and no longer afraid.